Step 17 - Loving Too Much Loving Too Much

Created by the UK's leading Relationship
Specialist, Helen Mia Harris

Programme Steps

STEP 17

1 – How Does Love Addiction Impact on Daily Life?

Whether or not you were aware that there was something missing in your life, you will be when you meet the person you want…

Adam Phillips

Workbook Recommendation

Having watched this video I recommend you read the section starting with the chapter called “Signs that You May be in a Narcissistic Relationship” which you will find on pages 215 to 222.

2 – Which Ways Have Love Addiction Affected Your Daily Life?
- Loss of concentration.
- Becoming irritable.
- Start to stay away from friends and family.
- Neglect your own family and marriage (if your person of desire is not the person you are married to).
- Hiding behind secret worlds for fear friends and family find out who you “really” are.
- Profuse preoccupation with text messaging, emails, and phonecalls.
- Anxiety and obsession renders addict powerless.
- Like a drug addict, the love addicted must have their fix.
- I love you, I hate you, don’t leave me… caught in a loop.
- Neglect your self care and hygiene, unless meeting your person of attraction.
- Self medication – shifts one addiction to another, eg alcohol/drugs.
Notice which of the above points you identify with, either now or in the past and make a note of how strongly they apply to you.

3 – Finding Practical Strategies for Change

Focusing on one of the ways Love Addiction affects your life. Write down practical things you could do to break the habit.

For example. If you are “Staying away from friends and family”, then plan an afternoon with your family, or a trip out with your friends.

If you are “neglecting your self care and hygiene” then make a date with yourself, and on that date, really go to town caring for yourself, having a good soak in the bath or a trip to the spa or massage. Importantly it’s for you. It’s a date with you, because you really are the most special person in your life.

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It is also wise to have face-to-face grief counselling or relationship therapy as this programme is by no means the absolute cure for the acute despair one can experience at this devastating time. If you are experiencing: panic, depression, sleeplessness, loss of appetite, anxiety or separation distress, it is vital that you also make an appointment with your local General Practitioner; this can be coupled by seeing a therapist or psychoanalyst in your local area.
Guarantee:
I am confident that this programme will help you to find your way past the devastating experience of lost love and sadness.
Provided you take the time to go through the therapeutic workbook and 6 eBooks on how to survive a broken heart, love withdrawal following heartbreak, which is woven around my own personal story and all the videos and guided journeys to alleviate anxiety symptoms.
If you have done this and you are still unhappy, I will give you your money back with no questions asked.