Step 18 - Loving Too Much Loving Too Much

Created by the UK's leading Relationship
Specialist, Helen Mia Harris

Programme Steps

STEP 18

1 – Are you in a Narcissistic Neglectful Relationship?

Not all relationships are naturally healthy. Throughout the e-books and videos we’ve been talking about how Love Addiction is in part caused by the behaviour of the pursuer, the person with the neediness, desires, fantasy. But sometimes we may find ourselves in a situation where, not only are we predisposed towards Love Addiction, fear of abandonment and panic, but we have a partner who makes things worse because of their own narcissistic nature.

It is not about apportioning blame, as we are only able to change ourselves. But at least if we can recognise the signs of a narcissistic relationship then we can do something about it. If your partner has an abusive nature then there is little you can do and it may bring you solace to realise it was never really your fault.

We become attached to what’s familiar, and sometimes we hold onto things that are safe and predictable, even if they are bad for us…

John Bowlby

Workbook Recommendation

I recommend you read the section starting with the chapter called “Breaking the tie that binds: Co-dependent Attachment Strategy” which you will find on pages 222 to 237. These pages also include a Guided Visualisation to affirm inner strength and self belief.

2 – Are You in a Narcissistic Relationship?

Take the following Narcissistic Relationship Test to find out if you are in a narcissistic relationship based on the classic indicators.

Are you in a Narcissistic Relationship? Take the Quiz…

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It is also wise to have face-to-face grief counselling or relationship therapy as this programme is by no means the absolute cure for the acute despair one can experience at this devastating time. If you are experiencing: panic, depression, sleeplessness, loss of appetite, anxiety or separation distress, it is vital that you also make an appointment with your local General Practitioner; this can be coupled by seeing a therapist or psychoanalyst in your local area.
Guarantee:
I am confident that this programme will help you to find your way past the devastating experience of lost love and sadness.
Provided you take the time to go through the therapeutic workbook and 6 eBooks on how to survive a broken heart, love withdrawal following heartbreak, which is woven around my own personal story and all the videos and guided journeys to alleviate anxiety symptoms.
If you have done this and you are still unhappy, I will give you your money back with no questions asked.