Step 23 - Loving Too Much Loving Too Much

Created by the UK's leading Relationship
Specialist, Helen Mia Harris

Programme Steps

STEP 23

1 – Key Things to Help You Overcome Love Addiction

Workbook Recommendation

Having watched this video I recommend you read the section starting with the chapter called “Love and Other Drugs” which you will find on pages 274 to 280.

In here you will learn more about the role your brain chemistry and body’s hormones and chemicals play in how you feel, react and behave when in love.

Importantly you will also learn what you can do to break free from your brain chemistry.

If there is any possible consolation in the tragedy of losing someone we love very much, it is the necessary hope that perhaps it was for the best.

Paulo Coelho

2 – Creating the Strategy For Positive Change
- Differentiating fantasy from reality.
- Working through deficient self-worth.
- Discovering a way through rejection, insecurity, and abandonment.
- Self value, self care, and the search for meaning and purpose.
- How to overcome and survive love withdrawal and a painful separation.
- Redirecting the craving for love to a significant new connection to yourself.
- Self empowerment, self validation and knowing when love hurts to let go.
- Building inner resources to avoid projecting onto others what you feel you lack in yourself.
- Reversing self abandonment (putting the beloved before yourself).
- Learning the difference between healthy love and insecure, anxious love.
Now, and any time in the future you can reflect on this list and choosing the one that seems to stand out, you can find practical ways to put it into action. Remember it’s small steps that get you there.

If for example you’ve chosen number 9, reversing self abandonment, then the next time there’s a decision about what to do, instead of thinking “what would they like to do”, allow yourself to think “what do I want to do”. When dressing, instead of “Would they like this outfit” think “I want to wear the clothes that make me feel good today”.

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It is also wise to have face-to-face grief counselling or relationship therapy as this programme is by no means the absolute cure for the acute despair one can experience at this devastating time. If you are experiencing: panic, depression, sleeplessness, loss of appetite, anxiety or separation distress, it is vital that you also make an appointment with your local General Practitioner; this can be coupled by seeing a therapist or psychoanalyst in your local area.
Guarantee:
I am confident that this programme will help you to find your way past the devastating experience of lost love and sadness.
Provided you take the time to go through the therapeutic workbook and 6 eBooks on how to survive a broken heart, love withdrawal following heartbreak, which is woven around my own personal story and all the videos and guided journeys to alleviate anxiety symptoms.
If you have done this and you are still unhappy, I will give you your money back with no questions asked.