Step 6 - Loving Too Much Loving Too Much

Created by the UK's leading Relationship
Specialist, Helen Mia Harris

Programme Steps

STEP 6

1 – The Signs of Love Or Romantic Addiction?

Workbook Recommendation – Having watched this video I recommend you read the section which is about understanding your own addictions. It starts with the chapter called “Co-dependency and Narcissistic Fierce Attachment” which you will find on pages 203 to 214.

This feeling of merging entirely with the beloved is perilous as it literally is like a drug that can quickly pull you down in to a powerful vortex of craving and yearning, whilst at the same time feels intoxicatingly sublime and perfectly right…

Helen Mia Harris

2 – Understanding Your Own Love Addiction Patterns

In the video above I’ve described the main signs of an Addiction to Love and Romance. How much do you relate to each of the problematic approaches I introduced in the video? As before, feel free to write things down in your notebook. You could give each of the items below a score from 1 to 10. 1 being low and 10 being high.
- Constantly searching for romance. Quickly becoming fixated on one person unbeknown to them.
- Falling in love with people online/in chatrooms before actually meeting them in person.
- Mistaking intense sexual experiences or romantic infatuation for love.
- Enslaved to emotional dependency and romantic intrigue.
- Obsessing about someone, and can’t let go even if they are unavailable or toxic.
- Withdrawal/rejection is experienced as an extreme intensity of loss, panic and abandonment.
- Choosing unavailable people which then trigger abandonment.
- When love addiction and emotional pain is confused with romantic love.
- Feel overly familiar with the person of addiction, a likeness most like ourselves (soul mate).
- You confuse sex with love and offer sex in the hope of receiving love.
- The relationship becomes the centre of your universe and your main/only source of happiness and meaning.
- You have an inability to focus on or think about anything else.
Which one of the above do you most relate to?

3 – What would you do differently?

Choosing the one above that you most identify with. Imagine your best friend had this as a problem and asked you for advice. Come up with three bits of advice that you would you tell them to do, to help them move on from this pattern. Make sure at least one of the bits of advice is something tangible and practical.

4 – Take the Narcissism Test

Take my Narcissism Test to find out if you are in a relationship with a narcissist.

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It is also wise to have face-to-face grief counselling or relationship therapy as this programme is by no means the absolute cure for the acute despair one can experience at this devastating time. If you are experiencing: panic, depression, sleeplessness, loss of appetite, anxiety or separation distress, it is vital that you also make an appointment with your local General Practitioner; this can be coupled by seeing a therapist or psychoanalyst in your local area.
Guarantee:
I am confident that this programme will help you to find your way past the devastating experience of lost love and sadness.
Provided you take the time to go through the therapeutic workbook and 6 eBooks on how to survive a broken heart, love withdrawal following heartbreak, which is woven around my own personal story and all the videos and guided journeys to alleviate anxiety symptoms.
If you have done this and you are still unhappy, I will give you your money back with no questions asked.